Truth is Your Identity

Trust Yourself!!

Answer the following questions orally as quickly as you can. Don’t get stuck on any one question.  Just answer each one and then move on to the next. Don’t scrutinize your answer or think about what someone else would say or do. If you feel like you can’t find an answer, say anything (even “blah, blah”) and then move on.

What does loving yourself today look like?

 Do you want to change anything about yourself? If so, what? Would you say that means you don’t love yourself?

Do you find that you spend most of your time competing with others? About what?

Do you try to change people? Why?

What would happen if you spent each day doing the things that make you feel good? Can you do that? Have you ever done that, even for half of a day?  

Would you say you are more selfish or selfless? Why?

What kind of person are you? Do you feel good about yourself when you answer these questions? Your answers to questions such as these are better than any answer I could give you about you. Though I am an intuitive coach, your answers and the way you feel after you have answered these questions will tell you how close or far you are from your truth or true self. Your true self is a guide that always thinks highly of you; the true self is the spirit within you, the light within you. How far or close you are to that source will determine the things you think and feel, and the distance you are from feeling good. It is nice to be guided by your best source of information. This is the you that is a part of God and is always directing your path if you should receive the answers given. You and you are ONE. And the separation that is created happens only when you do not see yourself as the beautiful piece of the Divine that you are. 

Most of us have forgotten how to feel our truth, how to feel good about who we are, and as a result, experience segregation from our self and others. This happens because we feel like others are a better source of wisdom than ourselves. They are not. If you pay attention to your inner guide, you will know how you feel. You may not always be able to put it into words, but you will know how you feel. You even know, though you may tell yourself otherwise, the easiest path or the one of bliss and connection. But you must practice making this connection. The path to the wanted is not through someone else’s story or their practice. You can sit at the feet of a Guru or minister forever and observe, or you can take what you know to be true and live it.

It is true. We have lost our true sense of feeling what we feel, thinking someone else will come along and tell us where to go and what to do, how to be or feel about things. We have forgotten what loving ourselves, and therefore loving someone else, feels like. We know how it looks; we see other people living it sometimes. We say, why isn’t that me? Or, why isn’t that mine? But time and time again, we practice the same feeling of lack and yield the same results. This distance between what we want and what others think best was initiated for some of us because we had parents that cared so deeply for us that they didn’t want us to feel lost or ostracized. They didn’t want us to be picked on as we stood in the middle of the path, trying to remember the way home, so they taught us their way home. And then, from parents to siblings, to friends, mates, leaders and bosses, we are continually feed our “shoulds.” We accept, unless it rubs us wrong and even sometimes when it does, because “shoulds” are like rules, and we are supposed to follow the rules, right? And usually if we don’t do the things we are told, we are given words of failure, shame and guilt. And no one wants to feel those. So we go along. We go along so intently that when someone tells us what to do, we throw ourselves at the race attempting to beat anyone else who might be doing the same thing. We believe we must follow “the should” well and beat others to measure up or be the best, to win. 

 We have been born into a culture of competition, which guards us from truly loving ourselves and others. Now don’t get me wrong, I am all for a little friendly competition. Sometimes this can fuel the journey. Still, for many of us, the only way to succeed is for someone else to lose. This is the real loss because this thinking perpetuates a false understanding of self and what makes one valuable. Then as a result, we lose sensitivity as we attempt to win a “should” race. There is no way someone could do what you do the way you do it. That is the true value of your being. You have been brought here for a divine purpose all your own. The practice of loving yourself is one that strips away what has always been understood or told to you, leaving you with what you feel so that you step out from your authentic truth.

Take a moment. Rub your hands gently up and down your arms. What do you feel? For some this will be tickly, for others this will feel relaxing or soothing. We all have different feelings, which is why it matters most what you personally feel. I mean, why would you continue to rub your arms, if it felt tickly and you didn’t want to be tickled? Yet, if you rubbed your arms and felt ease, then you’d continue on. Someone who has gone through their version of a similar experience may be able to give you keen insight, but it will not be your experience. Which is why you could never really compete with anyone anyway. The outcome will always be different, even if just subtly.

We are individuals, and yet we are all the same. I can understand the confusion in that. It sounds contradictory, but we all come from the same ONE: God; therefore you are me: we are the ONE. And we are individual parts/packages of the ONE, uncovering our own unique way back to the ONE so that God may walk this path with us as intended. 

 Listen and Trust Your Self! I am here to help if you need a reminder of how that is done. 

Sat Nam: Truth is my identity, and it is yours too!