A Couple Thoughts on Grief

I am not the only one who knows about grief. 

In 2021, we all do-- whether we admit it or not. 

We know that it feels like our heart is sore right in our chest as it beats. 

We know we want to hide and eat and scream and [fill in the blank with your thing] till it stops. 

Grief is like that. 

We can not run from our grief.  

The things we do to pacify ourselves don't really take it away. 

Grief is a process that we must go through no matter the challenge it presents. We will go now to bear our cross, or we will go later kicking and screaming. Why, it is from within this space that new pathways are made, new ideas are birthed, new structures, atoms are split...evolution takes place. 

And, it hurts. I can not lie to you. We will hurt. 

But nothing is purified, transformed, even transmuted, without pressure. 

And while we feel our grief, we must do just that. 

Even if we have a friend to hold our hands, we will feel our grief with them there, but all alone. It will be nice to have a friend. But the work, to process what is inside of us, will be our own to do. 

Tears will be shed, and it will be good to let them fall and bless the earth. Let what is dead return to where it began, to compost. 

I pray we pay attention to the depth of our breath, and remember to deepen it. Deepen it even still and feel the body open under the rhythmic pressure of the in and out. We will need the breath for these stages. 

For though we may think we can numb and skip steps, there is no way around, but through with grace and fortitude. 

And one day, the grief will be lighter, and the change will be all around, and we will laugh again. 

Our practices during this time, our routines, our thoughts and behaviors will matter. Let go of the critique and do what you can. 

Let go of doubt. Our grief does not need our extra weight in thought. 

Center yourself in the best routines that you can find. Feel your way to them and trust what you feel to be true and right for you. Do your routines gestured in love. 

Let us lean not on our own understanding. We will need something to believe in. Yeshua is a constant friend in our time of need. But grief does not care. This will be up to us. 

It will be up to each of us to choose what we believe in, and then to stick to it. Stick tighter than a sister. Deeper. Inside. Inside the heart. 

We will not always know what to do next. Then, we should rest. Rest as much as we can. 

We will see a light. We may already see one. 

You are it. It may seem dark right now as if we are waiting for a light to come, to save us from our grief, from the loss of so much. Still it is you. My friend, it is you. 

It is inside of you. 

Let your grief wash through you and reveal a new depth of your being. Grief is like that: we must feel it to take of its nectar. 

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Let's work through some of the collective grief. 

Let's practice yoga. 

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